I think we clarified that it was "Teddy" Roosevelt  that said "Walk softly and carry a big stick." But then again, I'm not a history buff regardless of the twenty-two years I grew up with one, so if I'm wrong, sue me...and/or send me a history book because I need to polish up on it. But that brings me to the thought of, whatever happened to the big stick? I don't think it should have gone away. I think we desperately need the big stick. And by big stick, I do not mean penis.

I don't know if anyone else feels the way that I do about my friends and/or friends of Christmas pasts but sometimes I want to walk up to them and wail on them with the big stick. Then politely say, "Quit being a deuchbag" and walk away. The proverbial big stick doesn't work nowadays. You can't hint or even bluntly tell someone that their attitudes and actions need some serious work. People today need proof and by proof I mean photographs, large groups of people or the police to come by to tell them that they are ridiculously irresponsible. They need balloons and parties and banners that say, "We hate what you're doing!" for them to figure out that they aren't even remotely getting the point of the trillions of other messages.

Such as, "Don't do anything stupid."

What is it about this message that conveys that the messenger wants you to do the exact opposite? 

Look, I'm not saying these things just for the sole purpose of being an asshole. That's just an added bonus. I'm saying them because By God you need some fucking work. Or at least, you did. I don't know what you do nowadays, it's very true. But I do know what you did do. And you hurt some very good friends of mine. Perhaps you even hurt one of your *gasp* best friends? And quite honestly, that makes it my business. Because I am the shoulder they need to lean on when you've hurt them again. Sometimes, I felt it would just be easier to come wail on you a bit to beat this nonsensical attitude out of your brain. But I guess there has been something that's been missing out of these moments. Blogging or non-blogging. Part of the reason I started being blunt with you is because, I guess, in some strange corner of my mind I still do give a shit about what happens to you. But when you treat yourself like you do (like you're nothing) and when you treat your friends the same...then I have no need of you in my life. But if I wasn't thinking about you and your well-being (or lack thereof) I wouldn't be blogging about you in the first place. But the things that I say, while mean, while nasty...are true. People stopped liking you because of your actions. People aren't there for you because of you. And if you could try to flip-flop that around to where you aren't at the very least ACTING like you are taking advantage of everyone's hospitality (which by the way that and their trust are going to be very hard to win back) then you wouldn't be in the spot that you are.